So I have taken the plunge and have tried to start dating again. I signed up on match.com only to be matched with men whose sole criteria in a partner was that they were thin or athletic/toned. Sole. Criteria. Glad so many men have their priorities in check. Waste of $60.00, that's what that was. And when I tried to tell them why I was leaving them, they just wanted to give me another 3 months free. Why? So I can continually be reminded that 90% of the men on your site are shallow and can't look at the woman within?
I thought then, why fight it? I'm a big girl, there has to be a website out there for men who like big girls, so I joined bbpeoplemeet.com. I met one guy who I thought was pretty awesome only to be told that he has issues with self-confidence and that's why he thought he would try dating a fat chick (he didn't call me that, I'm calling me that). I'm so glad I could be some dickwad's science experiment. Goodbye bbpeople.
On to singleparentsmeet.com - hey, guess what? I'm a single parent too! Let's get together and do some family friendly activities - perfect for me who has my son full time and never gets to do very much outside of momville. Oh, no, we're back in the shallowness, where men only care about superficial things. Apparently, one has to be a MILF to be on this website, and I don't fit the bill. There are also a tremendous amount of men who don't actually have children on this website - they just like single moms - why? They think we put out? Go to Hell.
Do I dare? I'm so tired of paying someone to look at other people's pictures and deal with their bullshit lies. So I caved. I went on Plenty of Fish. It's free. It's also full of weirdos. You would think out of all the people on there that there might be a few good men. Like Greek Guy. I shot him a quick message to tell him he was handsome and I liked his profile. Pretty easy breezy, nothing big. He writes me back telling me he thinks I'm cute. Excellent! We're off to a great start.
I suggest we move off POF to our phones where we are now texting feverishly, like 2 school kids. He's an engineer, been married, has a teenage daughter, sounds responsible. Wants photos of me (tasteful) and goes skiing for the weekend with his buddies, texting me all the while. He's totally into me (I think). Fast forward 2 days and I'm in Minneapolis out for dinner with a co-worker and I get this text:
"Tara's blowing me - wanna see a pic?"
Uh. Huh? What just happened? Apparently, he's making a joke with a buddy and doesn't know how to text. Nope, dude, you just got caught. I don't care who's blowing or not blowing you, but it's not something you share with me. It's rude, distasteful and disrespectful. I get called a prude. I ask him how he would feel if 2 guys were texting eachother about his daughter that way. All of a sudden I'm right, he's sorry.
I'm so not interested.
What's a girl to do? I resort to Twitter - why not give this online dating thing a bit of a break? I see a tweet from Perez Hilton about okcupid.com. How bad can it be?
Well, this is a to be continued, because I just joined up and so far, I'm kind of liking it. The more questions you answer, the more it can match with others who feel the same way. My favourite part so far though is the determination of how bad enemies you would be with someone. It's interesting to read your similiarities but even more intriguing to see how you differ from someone. So far, I'm very attractive to men in Oklahoma, but I think I'll give them a pass. Since I have such limitation on time, I'm picky about who I see and when I see them.
I do know if this doesn't work then I'm taking a good long break and will just love the crap out of my little boy and hope something comes along off-line.
Wish me luck!